'Love and Other Drugs', which is currently screening in the cinemas, is a film starring Jake Gyllenhaal and Anne Hathaway, and directed by Edward Zwick. If it has to be classified in a certain genre, then one might call it a 'romantic comedy', or even a "comedy romance drama" as one Catholic reviewer put it. However, nothing in the trailer, or its classification as a romantic comedy, prepared me for the satire and portrayal of true love that underlies the more superficial aspects of the movie. But having read a number of reviews concerning this movie, it would appear that it is precisely the latter that has drawn the most attention. And this is not surprising since the movie does have a considerable amount of on-screen sex, and the film does not shy from nudity. But I am dismayed that major Catholic reviews have also been so preoccupied by the nudity and casual sex, and other acts which are "morally offensive" that they fail to highlight the good, and the moral journey that is embedded in the movie. The aim of this review is to offer what I hope is a more positive take on the movie's moral merit, and if you don't want to read any spoilers, I recommend you stop reading now, watch the movie, and then come back to this afterwards!

Jamie then meets Maggie, played by Anne Hathaway, and they hit it off immediately because they both seem to want the same thing: casual sex. But Maggie has early-onset Parkinson's disease, and she uses casual liaisons to keep people away from seeing her vulnerability and fear, and also to feel wanted. Her deepest fear is that she will end up alone and abandoned because of the burden that her illness would put on those around her. So, she deeply longs to be loved, and uses sex as a poor substitute for it. But at the same time she is afraid to be loved because that means she would have to be less independent, and actually accept the help of another person, and eventually have to rely on him. This requires trust, of course, and that is possibly what we fear most about love. Fear of trusting another, and so, being vulnerable not only extends to our human relationships, but I think, it may also explain why so many of our contemporaries are afraid to have faith in God, and accept his love. We're so conditioned by society to be independent and self-reliant, or wounded by past experiences, that we might no longer know how to trust another, and be loved, even by God who is Love.

But in the end - after a few more twists to the tale - he doesn't, because he has learnt what it really means to love another, and he sacrifices a much-desired lucrative job promotion to stay with Maggie, and care for her. Hence, in both persons, we see a movement in their characters as they mature as individuals, relinquish fear and selfish pleasures, and learn to grow in the virtue of love itself. What makes this movie compelling, then, is this movement, and the movie allows us to glimpse a part of their pilgrimage of life. And I think, if we're honest, we'll see something of ourselves, and our own moral growth in them. So, seen in a positive light, this movie might well speak to our generation, which is caught up in the transient pleasures of sex and other drugs, and maybe give them pause to reflect on just how much more beautiful, enduring, and powerful love is.
Finally, this movement reminded me of Pope Benedict's words in §9 of his encyclical, Deus Caritas Est, which also invites us to discover the depths of real love. So, let his be the final words with which to reflect on 'Love and Other Drugs':
"Yet eros and agape — ascending love and descending love — can never be completely separated. The more the two, in their different aspects, find a proper unity in the one reality of love, the more the true nature of love in general is realized. Even if eros is at first mainly covetous and ascending, a fascination for the great promise of happiness, in drawing near to the other, it is less and less concerned with itself, increasingly seeks the happiness of the other, is concerned more and more with the beloved, bestows itself and wants to “be there for” the other. The element of agape thus enters into this love, for otherwise eros is impoverished and even loses its own nature. On the other hand, man cannot live by oblative, descending love alone. He cannot always give, he must also receive. Anyone who wishes to give love must also receive love as a gift. Certainly, as the Lord tells us, one can become a source from which rivers of living water flow (cf. Jn 7:37-38). Yet to become such a source, one must constantly drink anew from the original source, which is Jesus Christ, from whose pierced heart flows the love of God (cf. Jn 19:34)."
I love this movie so much pure perfection. Jake is a great actor!
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